HOW TO GET OVER SOMEONE YOU NEVER ACTUALLY DATED

Have you ever become totally obsessed with someone you never actually dated? Perhaps a casual hookup that you wanted more from or an amazing Tinder date that never actually went anywhere? Maybe it’s that guy on the Subway who held the door open for you once (LOL, jk.. but seriously I miss him). Chances are, there probably wasn’t a definitive ending so you were kinda just left there holding on to nothing. Or maybe you don’t know WTF I’m talking about because you know how to read signs. But, in case you’ve ever been a delusional, obsessed, psychopath like me, you might want to keep reading.

I used to obsess over guys for years who (probably) didn’t know my name. I’ve sat around analyzing a “situationship” with my best friend over a cheese plate more times than I’m proud to admit. I was convinced that the guy I hooked up with 3 months ago was still thinking about me. I would tell my friends and myself that the guy I was obsessing over was “intimidated” or “shy” and that’s why I only heard from him when he was black-out drunk. Then, one day, I woke up! I realized how silly I was being and how my “obsessions” were holding me back from finding something real to care about.

Here’s how I got over the relationship that never was.

STOP TALKING ABOUT THEM

The more energy you give the situation, the more you’ll keep obsessing over it. Plus, your friends and family are probably sick of hearing about this guy who’s not your boyfriend who doesn’t know you exist for the past decade LOL.

AVOID THEIR SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS

Block, delete, or go on a hiatus! Cyber-stalking your crush may be the worst way to try to get over them. It’ll only make your mind wander about what they’re doing, who they’re talking to, and why they aren’t contacting you.

PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE OR LET IT GO

If you’ve been obsessing over someone who’s shown you little to no effort, then you probably think there’s still a chance of a real relationship forming. If you really think there may be a chance, but he/she isn’t showing you any effort, then you either have to tell them how you feel or let that sh*t go! #byefelipe The idea of rejection is scary, for sure, but the idea of wasting another second wondering about what could have been sounds way scarier to me.

GIVE SOMEONE ELSE A CHANCE

The worst thing about holding onto a crush, is that you don’t end up exploring your options. Keep your mind and heart open by going on dates with new people. Maybe you’ll meet someone that you like so much better than that dud who hasn’t texted you since last season. And, if that doesn’t happen, keep on trying.. fake it till ya make it, ya know?

In conclusion, it’s sometimes harder to get over someone you never dated than it is to get over a full-blown relationship. Maybe it’s the lack of closure or the curiosity of the unknown? Either way, it’s normal! Don’t be hard on yourself, but be realistic so you don’t waste precious time.

Thanks for reading!

Xo KP

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