Would You Date Yourself?
Well, would you?
In last week’s podcast, I sat down with Morgan Bennet, blogger from The Relatable Red and discussed the hard truth about meeting your perfect match. We’ve noticed that, all too often, our peers complaining that men are “trash”.. asking why there aren’t any “good guys” out there.. and how they haven’t met someone who can handle them (c’mon, give me a break). And, although you’ll probably kiss lots of frogs before you find your prince, that doesn’t mean that you can’t also be a frog.. or have some froggy tendencies. You know what I mean?
Women have come SO FAR. We’re demanding more out of our careers, more out of society, and more out of relationships. But, we have to remember that demanding more means that we are demanding what we deserve and not what we think we deserve. When it comes to relationships, you have to put out the same energy and effort that you want to receive. And, that’s why I ask, “Would you date yourself”?
When you envision the person that you want to attract into your life, step outside yourself. Would you set up someone like you on a. date with your perfect person? Do you want to date someone who has a healthy routine and a 5 year plan, but you binge watch Netflix until 3 AM every night, wake up late for work, and can’t even plan what you’re eating for lunch? Do you want to be with someone who’s driven in their career, but you pass up every opportunity for promotion? if your behavior is the polar opposite of the type of person you want to attract, then you need to adjust your expectations or GET TO WORK.
Before I met Joe, I was out most nights of the week, drank more liquor than water, my laundry was piling up, and I spent virtually no time with family/at home. I used to think I was “too fun” and “intimidating” to attract a nice guy LOL. The reality was that I was attracting what I was putting out. Sure, plenty of guys wanted to hookup or take shots with me, but the guy who was ready to settle down wanted nothing to do with me. It wasn’t until I got honest with myself and worked on me, that I was able to attract a healthy and stable person into my life.
I’m not saying that you need to be a flawless, perfect person to be loved. You just have to exude the same energy and effort into yourself that you expect from a partner. You should also continuously strive to be better and better once you do find your match. Don’t you go and get complacent once you find your person! You owe it to them and yourself to be a person that your proud of.
That’s just a tiny snippet of what Morgan and I talked about over on the pod. Listen to the episode to hear more about Morgan’s self-development tips and personal experience. You can give it a listen on iTunes or Spotify.
