5 Roadblocks That Are Holding Back Your Love Life
Do you feel like no matter what you do, you can’t seem to get a hold on your dating life? Do you think that you’re doing everything “right”, but somehow you keep attracting the wrong people or no one at all? Dating can be exhausting, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are four common roadblocks that might be holding you back.
1. You’re Dating for Fun and Not For Commitment
Dating can, and should be, fun. But, it’s important to recognize who’s fun to date and who actually has the potential to become a serious relationship. Just because you’re having fun with someone doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re connecting on a deeper level. Next time you’re having fun with a new date, get honest with yourself about how they would hold up as a long-term partner. What do you have in common? Do you have similar values? Don’t waste time dating someone just for fun, when you’re looking for a serious commitment.
2. You Think Dating is Like the Movies
You’ve been guilty of falling into a daydream, picturing your life as if you’re living in a fairytale. But, living in la-la land can often be lonely. I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve heard “It’ll happen when you least expect it”. You can meet your prince charming at the most random and serendipitous time, but I wouldn’t recommend waiting for that to happen. Anything worth having requires some work. So, if you really want to find love then you can’t just wait for it. Download a dating app, join a club, or let your friends set you up with that great guy they keep telling you about.
3. You Mistake Great Sex for a Great Relationship
Great sex with the wrong person can turn you into a sort of addict. It feels good at the moment, but the hangover feels awful. You know it’s bad for you, yet you keep going back for more. Great sex does not equal a great relationship! You can prevent this kind of confusion by waiting until you have a connection with someone before you decide to have sex with them.
4. You Have Dating App Fatigue
Yes, dating app fatigue is most definitely a real thing. I told you dating can require a little work, but don’t turn it into a full-time job plus overtime. When you spend endless hours swiping, you’re more likely to get sick of it and settle for the wrong person. Stick to one or two dating apps and delete the rest. Then, give yourself a time limit for how long you’ll spend each day/week on dating apps.
5. You Keep Dating The Same Person
Stop being so fixated on your “type”. I hate to tell anyone that they’re being too picky and I will never suggest settling for less than what you want, but having a type can be a blessing and a curse. It’s important to know what you want in order to find the right person, but you want to make sure you’re not prioritizing trivial attributes over deeper or meaningful qualities. If you keep dating the same type, try opening up your mind to something different. You may be surprised by how it goes.
